How divorce becomes an opportunity and why a separation is not a disaster
A separation hurts. Especially for women, because they often still get the short end of the stick in a divorce. In her book “Intelligently separated”, Sandra Günther gives tips on how women can emerge stronger from this phase of life.
Intelligently separated - How women make a strong and self-determined new start
Divorce is not failure – this guiding principle runs like a red thread through the inspiring conversation with Sandra Günther, author of the book “Intelligently separated”. She shows how women can find strength and self-determination in difficult life situations such as a break-up. Her coaching program and guidebook are dedicated to the challenges associated with a divorce – without legal jargon, but practical and direct.
What does "intelligently separated" mean?
Sandra Günther emphasizes that an “intelligent separation” involves two things: On the one hand, the goal of separating as amicably as possible, especially when joint children are involved. On the other hand, the ability to protect your own interests and take important precautions to avoid being disadvantaged. Especially when emotions are running high, it is important to keep a cool head. As difficult as it may be sometimes.
“It’s about empowering yourself,” says Sandra. Whether it’s opening your own bank account, securing important documents or clarifying financial claims such as maintenance – a well-planned divorce is the key to a self-determined life after the relationship.
The 5 most important immediate measures in the event of an impending divorce
The path to strength: getting help and knowing your rights
Divorce is often associated with emotional pain, fear and uncertainty. Sandra advises women to seek legal and emotional support at an early stage. “A good lawyer is essential. It’s just as important to talk to friends. Don’t worry, good friends can take it. Women affected should not shy away from professional help either,” she explains. Topics such as protection against violence and securing rights and entitlements are also covered in detail in her book.
Protecting children and remaining fair
Sandra places a particular focus on the welfare of the children. “Children must not be put in the firing line,” she emphasizes. She encourages parents to resolve their conflicts outside of the child’s field of vision and at the same time to show that grief or difficult feelings are part of life – this is how children learn to deal with challenges.
The first step: from victim to creator
According to Sandra, a break-up is not an end, but a new beginning. She encourages women to take responsibility for their lives and not be intimidated by social stigmas. “Everyone has the right to a fulfilled life. And that begins the moment you take the first step,” she says.
Conclusion: separation as an opportunity
With “Intelligently separated”, Sandra Günther has not only created a guidebook, but also a source of encouragement. For women who are facing a divorce or are already going through one, it is an invitation to regain their strength and courageously break new ground. Because every woman has the right to take control of her life – regardless of her past.
Facts
Divorce and the situation of women in Europe
In the EU, a divorce occurs approximately every 40 seconds, or in other words, every third to fifth marriage breaks up. Around 800,000 couples divorced in 2021 (source: Eurostat).
In the EU, a divorce occurs approximately every
40s
800K
Couples divorced in 2021
The situation of women after divorce
Economic disadvantages
Many women experience a significant financial decline after separation. This is often due to the fact that they worked less during the marriage or were marginally employed to care for children or the household.
Single parent responsibility
In over 80% of cases, women bear the main responsibility for childcare after a divorce. This can result in additional financial burdens and challenges in reconciling work and family life.
Pensions and old-age provision
In many cases, women are less secure in old age after divorce, as they have often paid less into pension schemes.
Book tip: "Intelligently separated"by Sandra Günther
A must-read for women who want to shape their own future.
About Sandra Günther
Sandra Günther is an attorney and separation expert with her own law firm in Dortmund, specializing in family law, especially divorce and custody law, as well as criminal law and labor law.
After studying law at the Ruhr University of Bochum and working for a law firm, she has been successfully running her own law firm since 2007. She is co-author of the book “Wenn Liebe toxisch wird” (When Love Becomes Toxic), author of “Intelligent Getrennt” (Intelligently Separated) and known from a TV format with a legal focus.
With her coaching program “Intelligent Getrennt” (Intelligently Separated), she combines legal expertise and personal experience to guide people safely and confidently through separation.
